Having a transgender or gender nonbinary child is a wonderful gift, but it comes with a unique journey for both child and parent. Support is not only essential, but a gem of the journey! I offer both therapy and support for TGNB kids, as well as consultation and support for parents of TGNB kids.
Gender is a deep feeling. It is something we know, but it is invisible. Part of becoming a whole person is not just knowing one’s gender but making it visible. This stems from a desire to both experience and be seen as one’s true self. For many, the gender they were designated at birth is not the gender they feel inside. Recognition of one’s true gender can emerge at distinct points in development for each (truly there is not one typical trajectory!). Sometimes gender identity emerges and stabilizes clearly in early childhood. Other times this knowing arises as puberty approaches, or during puberty. Yet for others, their true gender makes itself known later in life.
For some kids the emergence of a gender can be (or include a part of them that is) non-binary. Being non-binary can mean something unique for each. For some, their gender may come with ongoing movement and/or fluctuation in their internal experience. They may feel they are more “girl” one day and more “boy” another. For others they may experience themselves as both “boy” and “girl” simultaneously but in proportions unique to them. Yet others may feel most at home in an identity completely outside the binary options our dominant culture provides (i.e. neither “girl” or “boy”). Some kids who are nonbinary (and even some kids who hold other gender identities) prefer being identified with the gender pronouns: they/them.
In doing this work for years now, I know that the path of each child is beautifully unique. I have learned to honor this. I am truly interested in meeting your child exactly where they are in their gender journey.